According to psychologist’s, there are four types of parenting: permissive, authoritative, uninvolved and authoritarian. Permissive and authoritative lead the list with being the most effective, with the latter being the best approach (psychologically speaking). However, there is a new term that has become popular amongst parents: “gentle parenting”.
First, let’s break down the four types of parenting according to psychologists:
Permissive: attentive and caring towards their children, without setting many (if any), rules or boundaries.
Authoritative: rules and boundaries are clearly set; discipline exists, but not punitively.
Uninvolved: don’t spend much time with their children, nor set rules or boundaries.
Authoritarian: their goal is to have control over their children; rules are strict, and discipline is often shown through corporal punishment (i.e. spanking).
Authoritative is seen as the “preferred” approach, as it tends to result in independent children with great self control. However, there has been a new term circulating called “gentle parenting” – so, what is it; and does it differ vastly from the types of parenting above?
Gentle Parenting: composed of four main elements: empathy, respect, understanding and boundaries. In regards to the four parenting styles, it would most closely align with the permissive parenting style; however, gentle parenting differs in that discipline is used, just in age appropriate ways.
Gentle parenting is quickly becoming the “preferred” approach in terms of parenting; however, I have seen many different takes on this approach. It is important to learn your child and families needs, and decide what works best for your family. Obviously uninvolved and authoritarian styles have low responsiveness in terms of raising your children in the best optics; and authoritative and permissive/gentle parenting are garnering more positive results.
Read up on parenting styles, and have a conversation with your partner to discuss the approach you would like to take. Set boundaries and ensure you and your partner are on the same page, as having two different parenting styles can affect your goals. For more information, see the parenting articles below:
A Psychologist Explains The 4 Styles of Parenting
