If there is one thing I want our kids to take away from my husband and I’s relationship it’s that: finding the one isn’t about grand romantic gestures, or gifts, it’s the small things in between.
However, I did luck out in that Shaun is quite romantic. He is thoughtful with his surprises and gifts, and he is an amazing cook! But what I want the kids to see is that relationships are built on the little moments. The ones where Shaun picks up my favorite snack on his way home from work because he thought I’d like it; when I’m making dinner and he comes and gives me a back rub and tells me how much he appreciates everything I do; and how he always asks if there is anything he can do to help.
Yes, relationships – especially marriage – are work. But communication and respect for your partner are the cornerstones to a great life. Shaun and I have had our romantic getaways, date nights, and extravagant gifts to each other; but what has truly made us even closer is our partnership and teamwork. We can read each other like a book. We know when the other one is overwhelmed and needs time to themselves. We can tell when the other one is upset and how to make them feel better. And we know just what to do to make the other one smile and laugh – unlike anyone else can.
While Valentine’s Day is a day many couples look forward to, I view it like any other. I am very lucky in that Shaun is always doing romantic gestures, and going above and beyond to set an example for our kids for what a quality partnership looks like. I hope our relationship sets a precedence for them to never settle. True love is out there, and your partner should never make you feel less than, or that you need to do better; they will make you the best version of yourself, and show you each and every day how much you mean to them, in the simplest, thoughtful ways.
